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Family Man, The (2000)
IMDB rating: 6.50
Plot: A modern-day Frank Capra story. Jack Campbell, a successful and talented businessman, is happily living his single life. He has everything, or so he thinks. One day he wakes up in a new life where he didn’t leave his college girlfriend for a London trip. He’s married to Kate, lives in Jersey and has two kids. He, of course, desperately wants his life back for which he has worked 13 years for. He’s president of P. K. Lassiter Investment House and not a tire salesman at Big Ed’s. He drives a Ferrari and not a mini-van that never starts. And most importantly he doesn’t wake up in the morning with kids jumping on the bed. After a bad start, day by day he’s more confident in his new life and starts to see what he’s been missing. Turns out money’s good to have but that’s not everything.
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Available versions:
DivX Version (Normal Quality), iPod/iPhone Version
Directors: Ratner Brett
Actors: Cheadle Don,Cage Nicolas,Piven Jeremy,Leoni Tea,Sommer Josef,Rubinek Saul,Comedy,Fantasy,Drama,Romance,
Fiance and Future Mother in Law help!! Please answer, 10 pts.?
1. My FH proposed to me on December 30, 2008 after dating for a year, and knowing each other for 2. We don’t live together, however, we either stay at my house or his house every night. He’s my best friend and my biggest supporter, but there is a few things that REALLY bother me.
2. His mother had him very young, at 18. She married his dad at 18 as well, and they have been happily married for 22 years now. His mom had taken me in and made me feel like part of the family. We went shopping, have gone to get our nails done, text messaged me daily etc, I figured all was well, and she treated me so sweetly, even telling people how much she loved me.It made me feel wonderful!!
3. Flash forward to December 30th, after the proposal that she knew was going to happen (he told her 2 months prior that he was going to do it). We set a date for May 22, 2010, start looking at venues and my family invites everyone to our engagement party.
4.I invite his mom to go to a local bridal show with me and she gives me an excuse as to why she can’t go. That’s fine, I understand, things happen, no biggie. One night when I was in night class in February, my FH text me and told me that we needed to talk.So we talk. What about? His mother tells him that he’s not getting married with a year of school left. (He’s 22, I’m 20. For the May 22nd wedding, he would be 23).and insists that we don’t want to be broke and such. After pouting for a little bit about having to push the wedding back, I agreed that it would be better to wait until one of us gets out of school.
5. In October this year, I go to his family reunion, and am bombarded by questions, like "when did you get engaged? When is the date set for?" His mother chimes in and says, "OH, it will be a VERY LONG engagement because I’m not going to let my son throw away his college years and get married so young like I did, and your kids did," WOW, talk about a slap in the face from someone that acted like my best friend. I saw on facebook that my FH had accepted his mom’s boss’ friend request (they pay for his school). and she commented, "Engaged? Your mom never told me this!! When did this happen?" Also, his mom has been talking to his ex on facebook. I know this is an informal was of communication, but supposedly his mom "hated this girl with a passion because of the way she treated his son by cheating on him and being disrespectful to the entire family." So why would she be talking to this girl? I try not to let it bother me, but that also feels like a slap in the face. I feel like she is ashamed that her son is engaged to me.
6. Months pass without setting a new date. His graduation will be May 2011, and mine will be December 2011, so I suggest a late May date, exactly a year past what it originally was. He says "we will discuss it towards the end of the year." Guess what? It’s the end of the year. I’m tired of waiting. I would love to know when I can expect to walk down the aisle.
He says he can’t wait to marry me, but I know his mother’s opinion is harboring him.He’s 23 today for crying out loud. He’s a grown man, and we make decent money, and will both have college degrees within the next year/year in a half around the time a potential date could be set.
It just hurts to spend so much time with someone you love so much, and put so much in, but he won’t give an exact date on what’s good for him. It also makes me feel so low on the actions his mother has shown towards me in the past several months, as I have shown her nothing but kindness and respect. I KNOW she controls him, they talk 15 times a day on the phone, and she can’t seem to cut the cord. I tell him that this whole ordeal about the things she has done to humiliate me, and he says, don’t worry, she likes you and accepts you. But guess what, I don’t feel that reciprocated. I feel like I will always be last pick to his mother. Even though he assures me that he loves me and can’t wait to spend the rest of his life with me, I feel like the cord will never be cut, and that I will end up marrying his mom as well.
I know she doesn’t want him to make the same mistakes that she did, but I’m not 18, neither is he, we almost have our degrees, have decent financial stability, and I’m NOT getting married because I’m pregnant. We’re totally opposites, so why does she think that marrying me would make him "throw away his life?" She told me I was the best for him before our engagement…wtf…
Um, yeah…do you really want to put up with that for the rest of her life? Might want to rethink marrying this guy. If you still say yes, elope. Find a wedding chapel somewhere (they’re not all in Vegas), go to a justice of the peace, just go ahead and do it. If he won’t stand up to Mommy, then it’s probably best to get out now–less paperwork.
spunk113 | Nov 25, 2009
give me points
Itchibad Von Nuutssck | Nov 25, 2009
Talk to him about his mother and tell him to grow some balls! You do not want your future to be dictated by his mother for the rest of your life. I would try to stop it and control it now before its way too late!
Jenna | Nov 25, 2009
I think that what your FHs mom is feeling is a little bit of depression over the whole fact that her baby boy is getting married. Its hard for you to understand her feelings towards the whole idea because you obviously haven’t been sheltered as much as he has. Don’t get to depressed and angry and hurt over the situation.
If you’re FH truly loves you, then nothing will stop him from marrying you. You should, though, even if you don’t think its the right thing to do, completely explain to him how you feel about his mother and the way that she has treated ya’lls decision since the engagement. You have the right to be happy and want to announce a date and everything else to the world, but you can’t because you are stuck with future mother in law’s decisions, and thats not fair.
Don’t be demanding of your FH. Don’t think that you can just come in and take control of every little situation because he won’t like that. He has depended on his mother for so long that he will see you as a control freak and over bearing and that will turn him off. Instead, calmly explain to him that you can’t take the stress of his mother bearing down on ya’lls decisions and that you would like for him to put down his foot at some time and point (let him know that it should be soon) and ask him mother to back off of the decision. Let him know that you totally want his mother’s support and you understand the aspect of graduating and so forth before marriage but you would like to have a full understanding of setting a date, just you and him.
If he doesn’t understand and won’t talk to his mother than you will have to talk to her. Its not fair to you that she is treating you this way. Its not fair one bit. You know this and other’s know this, but noone will say so. Don’t be aggressive about it. Thats the first mistake that you could make. Invite her out on a shopping spree and express to her how you feel. Let her know that the way she has been treating you has really hurt you emotionally and that you feel she is pushing you away and you would like to know why this is happening. Also ask her to be happy for both of you because you are happy with each other. Assure her that you love her son and that you will take great care of him, but she has to let you. If mentioning the Bible will help any it does state "that you shall CLING to your wife".
You also need to address the situation with mom talking to the ex. Your FH may not even know about it. If he does tell him that you would feel more comfortable with that coming to a stop. You don’t feel that its right for someone to talk behind someone’s back and be friend’s with them to their face. If you have any doubts about the situation and you are looking for a piece of mind, then you should add her to your account and let her know exactly who you are. You may find out things from her about his mother that can give you information on why she is acting the way that she is. I’m not telling you to become her bestfriend or expect her to accept you as a friend, but if your FH and this ex didn’t end on a bad note I’m sure it wouldn’t be that bad to have her as a facebook friend. Let her know from the start that you aren’t looking for a fuss or fight, simply just want to mend some broken roads and make a friend along the way. I’m sure this woman has moved on herself and she may even be getting married. You guys have been together for quite sometime.
I feel that your FH loves you and wants what is best for both of you but is simply afraid to break that tie with his mother. You have to voice your concerns about this before its to late. Before you know it the future mother in law may end up making every decision for both of you and thats not good. You may be in love with your FH and all, but if you can’t get him to turn to you and help you out when you need it the most and make important decisions with you then maybe he isn’t the one for you.
And honey you aren’t to young to be getting married. You have a bright future ahead of you, as far as I can tell, and you seem to be happy go lucky! I’m only 24 and I’m married and have a child. I’m as happy as can be and I’m looking forward to spending the rest of my life with a man who would lay down his life for me before anyone else (including his mother). You set your goals and stick to them and thats what makes you a strong woman. Its just time for your FH to do the same without the help of dear mom.
Good luck to you with whatever may happen and I hope that it turns out for the best! Congratulations also on your engagment! Prayers are with you and the future hubby!
Mason's Mom, David's WIF | Nov 25, 2009
To be honost, I think she’s just acting out, because she’s worried about her son making the same mistakes as her.
I think she must like you, because she spent so much time with you before you got engaged. She had to consider you potential marriage material, she must have just assumed it would be a long way off. She’s just not handling it well it well it seems.
You’re going to have to talk to the mother and find out what her problem really is. Ask her straight up if she dislikes you or something, and explain how her actions are hurting you, and your relationship with her son. If she doesn’t want him to marry you, she should just say so, or is it something else she’s worried about?
korrin_belle | Nov 25, 2009
