O.k...I've never believed that love conquers all....i don't believe that just because two people are in love that they belong together. WHta i believe in is compatibilty...you either have it or you don't.

Commitment, ...man you have to commit more  to just staying faithful...you are committing yourself to your partner's fault's, short comings, mistakes, ..which all ties together with compatibility. If you're not compatible...you're not going to be able to look past certain things.

Communication....OMG...this is more important than good sex lol. I know ya'll like, huh, wha? But ..seriously...if you don't know what your partner likes in the bedroom how u gonna have good sex? You may be thinking youhitting all the right spots...lol but..uhm no..you're not.  Communication is the key to everything in a relationship( i read relationship books, not trying to come off like I'M the expert lol)

Quality Time...yes guys..it's important lol. Quality time keeps the romance of the relationship going. If you never spending time together, of course you're going to eventually grow farther and farther apart. Quality time helps recapture the reasons and feelings for you being together in the first place.

Space...ah...just as important lol...Don't want to live and breath your mate .Thas unhealthy...trust me i know lol. It's good to be so in love that you WANT to be with them all the time, but  that's how you lose yourself. That's how you become devastated and depressed when something goes wrong..There's a big difference between missing someone and wanting to be with them and OBSESSING over someone and wanting to be with them.

Trust..and Honesty..goes hand in hand. Two very, very essential REQUIREMENTS lol...if you mess those up...it's gonna take a lot of ..all the other things on this list to make the relationship even somewhat satisfying, especially quality time, and communication. As a person who has violated trust before( no i did not cheat) i thought i'd gone to extreme measures of making it up. But in the end, it still wasn't enough. That's where...the communication comes in. TELL YOUR PARTNER if you're harboring things.

Intamacy...and no it doesn't  just mean sex. Being intimate is much deeper than sex, which i know can be pretty deep. Intamcy is a soft caress, a foot rub, a tight hug, a kiss on the forehead, a four hour conversation on the phone when you are apart from each other. I know for us women sometimes we may be upset , you may still manage to get us aroused, and even make love...but  for  most of us..even after that great sex, whatever problems were there, are still there, ..so that's how all these things tie into place with each other.

Good communication, trust and honesty,commitment,quality time, and general fondness of one another all lead to the one thing most of us desire in some form or another, intamacy which can lead to so much more..romance, sex, love....

So when in a relationship and trying to decide if you should stay or go....these are some things to think about.