I'm
not gonna feel bad or a lil guilty anymore. If a person has unresolved
issues with u they should tell u instead of letting you give them all
ur emotions and love while knowing full well they have doubts.
It's so cruel the way some people do the ones who love them, i mean i
know people don't always realize what they are doing, but doesn't
change the fact that they're doing it.
So a piece of advice to everyone who reads this blog, if u are in a
relationship or involved with someone who you know loves u and loves u
a lot and wants to be with u for the long term..and you have doubts,
doubts enough where u feel it's best to break up..DO IT...but don't
just leave it at that, break up and let the person know ur doubts and
reasons behind it, so that person can either reassure whatever
doubts u have, or accept tha maybe the doubts are reasonable and move
on..BUT DON'T keep the person emotionally attached to you while you "do
ur thing" and then about a year later when u realize there was
nothing to worry about, no reason to have doubts, feel hurt when
the person has become involved and emotionally attached to someone else. ..
Yes, i'm talking from personal experience, and yes, i'm
kinda annoyed by it? *Communication* is so freaking important, so many
randomn things could have been avoided in my situation had the
communication been there ! If ur mate makes a mistake, either forgive
them or let them go...but don't make them feel like u forgave them and
everything is all good, but all the while u may have forgiven them as
in ur not mad anymore, but haven't forgiven in the sense tha ur over it
and it doesn't cause problems....grrr i feel agitated just from feeling
sorta guilty about having these feelings for Tee cuz there was
something i didn't want to hurt. But at the end of the day, i realize
that person hurt themselves but not being able to *communicate* to me
what the real problem was with us, and now that everything has been
said and done, NOW he realizes it's ok to give me his all, that i won't
hurt him, or trick him in some way...we could have BEEN had that
problem solved, and it's not my fault that he waited til i was already
digging someone else. There has been EIGHT months from the time we
broke up til the time i got involed with Tee for him to realize that.
Lastly to my people out there, realize what u f*kking have while u have
it, even if there seems to be a problem, address it head on, don't wait
and try to figure it out on ur own, as a couple u figure them out
together, peaCe...I'm off to the movies.
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